The Divided States Of America; Part 3

The Sissification of America: Are parents today raising their kids different than how you were raised? If you answered yes, then do you believe that they way children are raised today will eventually sissify our country?

Here’s what I mean… I’m a parent of a young son, and I can be a protective father, but I try to find a balance between discipline, affection and protection. If you are a parent then you can understand the difficulty of letting your kids be kids, without constantly holding their hand. For example, why is it that when I was a kid, I would ride my bike everywhere, no helmet, no gloves, no knee pads or elbow pads. But now I see kids riding their bikes and they look like their going into battle. I think it’s safe to say that most of us growing up had multiple spills on our bikes, but we’re still here. I understand that there will always be some cases where a child has been severely injured or has even died from an accident, but there’s also been children who’ve died from riding in a wagon. Should we put gear on our kids before they go for a ride in a radio flyer?

I do agree that a helmet is probably a good idea for bikes and skate boards, but knee and elbow pads, and gloves? Come on, are we serious here. Why are we so worried about our kids getting some scraps and bruises? Don’t you think that if we constantly over-protect our kids, then they will have no experience of pain and how to cope with painful situations in life? I believe little scraps and bruises along the way are learning experiences that will be beneficial to their future.

Do we let fear control our parenting? I’ll admit that when we are in public, our son will be right by our side and is not allowed to wonder off. But, he just turned six and to me that’s just common sense, not fear. Now, the older and more responsible he becomes, the more we will “lengthen the leash.” I believe that there is a difference between common sense parenting and fearful parenting. To me, common sense parenting is that we protect our kids when needed, we keep a close eye on them in public, in crowded areas, but when there at home or at a park playing, we let them play, we let them get dirty, a little scrap here and there is part of the fun. Fearful parenting will always have their kids in that protective bubble worried about their every move… Prime example: If your child falls and starts crying, and you know that they’re not really hurt, do you still run over and pick them up, hugging and kissing them? Or do you use common sense? Example: If your child falls, without running over to them, you see if there really hurt, if not, you let them comfort themselves, let them (on their own) get up and dust themselves off?

Today, we have plastic jungle gyms with six inches of padding below in case of a fall. When I was growing up we had dirt or gravel to fall on, what has changed? Are we smarter today than we were back then? Or have we become so sensitive that we smother our children with padding, because we are so scared that they might get hurt? Are we taking our kids down a path that will make them more fearful of things later in life? Do you think we are babying our kids way too much? I do.

What has change from when our parents raised us to now? Are today’s parents more sensitive, therefore our children will be same or worse? Is this a good thing for our country as a whole? I don’t think so. I believe that this can have a negative effect on our country when our kids take over. Some of our kids will be our future leaders, and as a future leader, they’ll need to have thick skin, a strong mind and be a leader, not a follower…

In my opinion, fearful parents will raise future followers and not future leaders. These kids will be babied through their lives and when it’s time to move out, mommy and daddy will not be there to hold their hand. So what will they do? Odds are that they’ll have to find a leader in their lives to hold on to. A leader that was raised by common sense parenting…

The fact is that most fearful parents do not realize the effect they can have on their children as adults. They love their kids just as much as the next parent, but I think it’s good that we sometimes stop and critique ourselves on the job we do as parents. We should also look forward and see how we want our children to be as a man or a woman. Will they be mentally strong and independent, or will they have to depend on others? Are we setting our children up for success or failure? Are we doing our part to ensure the future of our country will be better than how we left it? Will our country be stronger than ever, or will we become a big pushover?

Disclaimer: I did not graduate from the school of parenting, but I did graduate from the school of commonsenseville…

~ by bohography on August 9, 2007.

One Response to “The Divided States Of America; Part 3”

  1. E0lAKJ hi great site thx

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